Don't Play Victim

I have no idea how to have a caring conversation with someone who always plays the victim card.  Am I the only one? Victims feel sorry for themselves and blame other people. Yes of course there are genuine victims that we must help.  Then there are fake victims who have this underlying envy and an inventory of excuses for why they can’t have what they want.  People who can’t see the forest through the trees have a thick layer of denial.  That’s a hole I won’t be climbing into anytime soon. I recognize that every situation requires a response from me and although my first impulse may be to blame someone else or feel sorry for myself, I remind myself that it will not give me what I want. At some point you have to jump into the driver’s seat and create the life you want rather than make excuses for why your life is unsatisfying. 

A victim mentality lets you take the moral high ground.  All it really is if you look at it is the refusal to take responsibility for the circumstances you find yourself in.  Suppose that you were mistreated by your spouse or unfairly fired from a job.  If you blame it on your wife or your boss, you create your own misery and give away your power.

The road to victory lies in the paths we take and although it is tempting to blame others and make excuses it will not ultimately give us what we want. I guess what I’m saying is if you want a different life take responsibility for creating it.  Stop waiting for others to fulfill you.  Take matters into your own hands.  Fight for the life you want and as Winston Churchill said, “if you’re going through hell keep going.”