Don't Play Victim
I have no idea how to have a caring conversation with someone who always plays the victim card. Am I the only one? Victims feel sorry for themselves and blame other people. Yes of course there are genuine victims that we must help. Then there are fake victims who have this underlying envy and an inventory of excuses for why they can’t have what they want. People who can’t see the forest through the trees have a thick layer of denial. That’s a hole I won’t be climbing into anytime soon. I recognize that every situation requires a response from me and although my first impulse may be to blame someone else or feel sorry for myself, I remind myself that it will not give me what I want. At some point you have to jump into the driver’s seat and create the life you want rather than make excuses for why your life is unsatisfying. A victim mentality lets you take the moral high ground. All it really is if you look at it is the refusal to take responsibility for the circumstances